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Sex and life

How often do you have sex in a week? twice? thrice or the whole freaking week? Did you know the average American couple has sex about once a week.

So how many times should you have sex? Well, there is no right answer for how often you should be having sex. More sex does not automatically equate to a better relationship. Instead, focusing on the quality of sex, your connection with a partner, and what’s best for your relationship can make your bond stronger.

“I’ve worked with couples who would argue that once a week is too much, and others who would say it’s not nearly enough,” says Stefani Goerlich, a licensed master social worker and sex therapist.

What science says about sex frequency

A 2017 study published in Archives of Sexual Behavior studied the sexual behavior of just over 26,000 people from 1989 to 2014. It found that the average adult has sex 54 times a year, or an average of about once a week.

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At the same time. it also found that, for married couples, the number stayed almost the same — 51 times a year.

Having sex less often may indicate a person is not happy in their relationship, but the decrease in sexual frequency may stem from other issues such as:

1. Stress — in general or about the relationship
2. Changes in the body due to aging and health issues
3. Falling into a routine that’s become boring
4. Being busy with kids, family, or career
5. Not feeling comfortable communicating with each other
6. Not feeling seen or heard by your partner

Bottom Line

So how much sex should couples really be having? Research has shown that couples who have sex at least once a week are happier than their less-bedded counterparts.

There is no correct number of times a couple should have sex. People may find that they engage in more or less sexual activity depending on factors such as age, health, life events, and relationship changes. Once a week may be the average, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s the right amount of sex for all relationships.

It is important for couples to communicate their sexual needs with their partner.

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