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Red flags in Relationship

Relationships are meant to make you feel safe, understood, and appreciated. However, in a toxic relationship, you will often feel drained after spending time with your partner.

Also Read: 5 red flags you are in a violent relationship

Dishonesty 

People who lie often think they are justified to do so, or bending the truth, just enough so no one gets hurt. 

Toxicity 

Takes many forms and can have an emotional, physical, and/or mental effect on you. Could be a person constantly bringing you down, a bad habit such as drinking alcohol, or a stressful work environment. Instead of kindness and mutual respect, most of your conversations are filled with sarcasm or criticism and fueled by contempt. There comes a point where you have to acknowledge the toxicity of the relationship is bad for your long-term health and move on. 

Naysayers 

Nothing makes this kind of person happier than seeing you fail. Surround yourself with people who are happy with your success. 

Hypocrisy 

This is when someone claims to have moral standards or beliefs to which their own behaviors do not conform. Double standards- that’s how Nim Notty refers to it. The moral standards could, in fact, be a cover for some deeply rooted sinister character traits. 

Excuses

Excuses are often thought of as reasons but are completely different. Reasons give an account of what just happened; excuses justify why they should be accepted. Excuses are just a way of avoiding accountability or taking responsibility. 

People using excuses often tell themselves that their own bad choices aren’t so bad after all. Believing these kinds of excuses spells trouble. 

Timewasters 

These are people who don’t respect your time. They’d call saying, ‘Oh, I’m sorry I forgot we were to meet’, take up too much of your day with drama, or ask you to do things for them without acknowledging you or even returning the favor. 

Self-condemnation

The words that come out of your mouth when you are speaking to yourself have a huge impact on you. Words tend to become beliefs. Your self-talk shapes you, affecting your attitudes and reactions. 

Boredom 

Boredom is often a sign of stagnation and lack of growth. Life is too short for inactivity and staying in your comfort zone. 

Negativity 

Comes in many forms- the internet, your playlist, fake friends, etc. It’s so easy to get dragged down by it. Don’t tolerate it. Feed positivity into your life, and listen to music that inspires you rather than discourages you. 

Living Without Integrity 

Liv a life that is true to who you are and what you stand for. Avoid doing stuff like wearing clothes that don’t fit right or just don’t feel comfortable. This draws your energy and you could develop guilt and shame. 

Gossip 

In our modern social circles, it is quite easy to get caught up in gossip and rumors. People engaging in gossip often try to make themselves look better by bringing others down. 

Hard Truths By Nim Notty

Sometimes trying to fix them breaks you. Toxic relationships are dangerous to your health; they will literally kill you. Stress shortens your lifespan. Even a broken heart can kill you. There is an undeniable mind-body connection. 

Also Read: Behaviors Women Exhibit That are HUGE Red Flags

 

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