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How to know a man is using you for your money

As a woman, how can you know when a man is simply using you for your money.

Every year, millions of women come out and narrate how they were duped by crafty men who hoodwinked them that they loved them only to swindle them of their hand earned money.

These days, it’s not only women who are gold diggers, men too have joined the bandwagon and are dating women for their money. 

So, how do you know if a man is after you or your wallet?

Here are signs you can’t ignore that he’s using you for your money.

He always wants to know about your income

A man that plans to use you for money would always ask questions about your job, career, investments, or anything that brings money to your wallet. He’ll be sure to relate most of your discussions to things that have to do with money.

It doesn’t matter if he knows how thick your wallet is or not; he’ll take time to say good compliments about your efforts, your material things (especially the pricey ones), and how well you’re able to manage them enough to be successful. This is one of the warning signs of a man using a woman for money.

He pays for things… at first

Before a guy starts benefiting from your wallet, he’ll be nice when you both first meet. He’ll offer to pay any bill he can handle. Don’t get this wrong; it doesn’t mean every guy you meet that offers to pay your bills has it in mind to use you.

It means that if a man wants to be with you in the long term for financial benefits. He first charms you with his kind and warm gestures to encourage you to drop your guards with him because he knows he’ll get back his money with time.

“If the person is a true gold digger, it can be hard to tell in the beginning because he’s often are putting on a full-court press in order to win you,” says ​​Psychologist Dr. Diana Kirschner.

First, they’ll pay for everything until you’re interested, and then — bam! They reveal their true identity.

But there’s more. She confirms “Often they will pretend to have their own money, but in reality, they are borrowing from Visa to pay Mastercard so they can finance the relationship until you’re hooked.”

Eventually, he’ll stop paying for things and assume that you’ll provide and pay for things most or all of the time.

You’ll hear stories about his financial difficulties

Beware of the man who doesn’t accept responsibility for his lack of funds or poor credit score. Usually, he’ll blame his problems on another woman or a previous spouse.

If you fall for that, the next empty bank account could be yours because this is one of the major signs he’s only dating you for your money.

A proper introduction to a request for help is starting with sad stories. Of course, it’s not a coincidence, and he doesn’t want you to listen to him. He needs money and wants you to help. As long as he is concerned, you’re a living cash machine to him.

He could go as far as saying he lost his credit card and wants money to attend to something urgent. Your man may not directly ask you for the money, but these stories are to manipulate you to release some funds for him to carry on with his plans. 

He has expensive tastes

According to dating and relationship coach Nicole Johnson.

 “A man is dating you for your pecuniary prestige if he consistently proposes you go shopping together, makes continual references about traveling with you or constantly suggests going out to expensive venues.”

Does he only like to go to the fanciest restaurants? Does he have a penchant for Dolce and Gabbana? Is he hounding you about taking a trip to Seychelles.

Men gold diggers also have a habit of spoiling you with expensive gifts to lure you so don’t let yourself fall into the trap of buying or accepting extravagant gifts.

He’s a total deadbeat

Being unemployed or working part-time doesn’t mean a guy is a gold digger.

But if he doesn’t have career ambitions and is content to spend your money, that’s a red flag.

He continually has financial issues

It’s normal for people to have financial issues, no matter how rich you are, and it’s not a man’s fault for having tho crisis. At the same time, it’s not your responsibility to sort all of them out for him, even if you’re both in a relationship.

You could support him in little ways; maybe agree to handle a considerable percentage of it to ease him a bit. But if he convinces you to do it all for him, or doesn’t sound appreciative for your effort, then that’s a red flag from him, and it means he’s a good digger.

BottomLine:

Listen to your guts

When something doesn’t feel right, you’ll know. Except you’re not giving it your attention or observing the way you should. The same thing applies to being in a relationship with a man that only cares about your money and how much he benefits from it. 

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