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Women and Sex

Have you ever wondered who enjoys sex more between men and women? The answer might surprise you.

While it is usually men who are deemed to think about sex the whole day and chase sex the most, it turns out that it may in fact be the fairer sex who take the lead when it comes to enjoyment. Here’s why:

Women are able to experience deeper and more varied orgasms than men

A study by Florida State University found out that men want more sex than women do at all stages of the relationship. However, despite having a lower sex drive, women can have multiple orgasms – which means women are having a better time in bed.

While Most men will orgasm within four minutes of penetration, most women take between ten to twenty minutes to reach orgasm. 

How to make a woman orgasm

Contrary to popular belief, the majority of women don’t orgasm through intercourse, most usually orgasm through direct stimulation of the clitoris. A study, conducted by researchers from Concordia University, looked into how women are turned on and found that there are at least four orgasmic zones on the female body.

These orgasmic areas include the clitoris, the internal region around the G-spot and the cervix – as well as non-genital areas, such as the nipples.

“Orgasms don’t have to come from one site, nor from all sites. And they don’t have to be the same for every woman, nor for every sexual experience even in the same woman, to be whole and valid.”

“It is likely that women have an enormous capacity to experience orgasms of many different types.

“The subjective experience of it is not necessarily the same for each woman, and can even be different each time a woman has one. Those differences span physiology and psychology.”the study’s senior author Jim Pfaus said

Women know what they want in sex

Women can hold their sexual desires for longer therefore when they finally have sex it is more enjoyable but men are more prone to be dominated by their sexual desires.

A woman is also more likely to want more from sex than men. Men too tend to lose the sexual desire as soon as they ejaculate and don’t last longer in bed.

Women on the other hand take longer to cum making the intensity of sex to increase and the desire of having more to grow.

Lastly women are more selective in choosing their partner and prepare better for sex unlike men who are more likely to be less selective and can easily fuck anything with a skirt and that moves.

I decided to take this debate to the public domain and asked the question: Why Women Enjoy sex More Than Men? Here are some interesting answers.

“I can cum multiple times from PIV and my sex drive is insanely high ?, so I enjoy sex more than most of the guys I’ve dated with the exception of my current SO who I would say enjoys it equally as much. It’s especially cool? when he uses some help to hold on and not cum for a long time. Anyway some people have very low sex drives and could live without sex so they might not enjoy it as much as people who are crazy about sex.

Each person is different

“Some girls can’t cum from sex but still love it. Some guys get really self conscious during sex and avoid it. Someone might enjoy sex more than their partner one night, and their partner enjoys it more the next night. Someone might enjoy a certain position way more than other positions and might enjoy sex more than their partner in that position. Each person is different.”

Who enjoys sex more changes with time

“It changes over time. My first time was with a divorced woman four years my senior. She had an orgasm so early she apologized that she couldn’t wait. She violated all the rules. It was slow penetrative sex, but she truly loved me. She was more than ready when I entered her. I had no trouble controlling my ejaculation. She easily orgasmed while I had to pump hard and fast to finally ejaculate.

A few years later I was with an athletic woman. She clenched me so tightly with her vagina I would barely control myself. Even moving slowly and pausing to get control, I couldn’t make her have an orgasm with penetrative sex before I lost mine. The only time she had a screaming orgasm was when I lay on the ground, perfectly still, and let her get her orgasm.

Finally, I married, and that is where I learned the most about sex. Early in marriage, I struggled to control my ejaculation. I finally learned, but it was difficult. Then, around middle age, after she went through menopause, birth control wasn’t so much of an issue. Nearly every time, she would have at least three orgasms. I would finally lose it on the third orgasm while she was pleading for me to keep going.

Now, I’m older. I can’t even get the semen to come out. She will stimulate me before intercourse, but the minute I go inside of her, I get soft. I can barely make myself ejaculate by myself. She, on the other hand, goes wild with manual stimulation. Her orgasms are louder and more intense than at any time in our life. I envy her ability to experience pleasure. I tell her she’s amazing. Orgasms are beautiful. I’m glad to be a part of it. I don’t think men give women orgasms. They are just part of the experience, but the experience of being with a woman in the throes of ecstasy is incomparable. It just makes me feel happy to see her so happy, needy, pleading, and enthusiastic. I feel a real emotional bond when I share her orgasms with her.

Bottom Line

As a man you need to take your time to understand women’s bodies.

“Unlike men, women can have a remarkable variety of orgasmic experiences, which evolve throughout the lifespan. A woman’s erotic body map is not etched in stone, but rather is an ongoing process of experience, discovery and construction.”

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