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Signs Your Woman Disrespects You 

Did you know that 7 out of 10 men in East Africa would say yes to marrying a Tanzanian woman? As shocking as it may seem, my Nim Notty theory on why an East African man would want a kipusa wa bongo( young beautiful Tanzanian lady), is due to the fact that not only are they great in bed but also because the majority are amongst the most respectful partners on the continent, if not the planet. 

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This shows how much respect is important for a relationship to succeed. One of the most painful situations you could find yourself in is having a partner who seems depressed, distant, and openly disrespects you. Here are sure signs that she doesn’t respect you enough: 

• Doesn’t Listen to You

This is the peak of disrespect. No matter what you have to say it just doesn’t seem important to her. You try to talk to her but she’d rather do something else as you talk. It gets frustrating and you fight more. Some women will make you feel crazy and even accuse you of not saying anything in the first place when in fact, you did. She just didn’t listen.

• Belittles You 

Speaking of fights, take note of how your partner acts during them. Watch out for name-calling and damaging verbal attacks. It also shows up in the form of ‘light-hearted’ jokes that actually feel mean. If your woman disrespects you, she won’t care whether it’s in private or in public. She will cut you down and make you feel lower than an earthworm! 

• Flirts with other men 

So, you two are in a healthy relationship, right? Then why is she flirting with old boyfriends on her FaceBook or posing inappropriately on her Instagram feed? Only a woman who lacks self-respect and self-control will do this to you, especially in public. It is a clear sign of disrespect. 

• Doesn’t acknowledge your Accomplishments 

Whatever you do, it is never enough. Your efforts to provide for your family either go unnoticed or even criticized. This is extremely damaging for your mental health. 

• Always comments negatively on your appearance 

Yes, we should all be a bit self-conscious about our looks. However, we expect our partners to boost our self-esteem from time to time. On nights when you feel extremely good about yourself, she makes you feel awful with her comments. This only means she can’t handle the fact that you feel better about yourself than she feels about herself. 

• Emotionally Manipulative 

Emotional manipulation methods include threats, guilt trips, spreading lies about you, all to force you to do what she wants. 

Also Read: Signs of Emotional Manipulation

• Can’t keep your Secrets and doesn’t share hers. 

A good partner is someone you can trust and confide in. If your woman exposes your personal life she definitely disregards your feelings. In a healthy relationship, you should both be able to talk about everything and anything.  

• Doesn’t include you when making decisions 

There are decisions in your life where if you want to have a healthy relationship, need to be made together. A minor example is deciding what apartment you are going to buy or rent next. Her lack of a need to ask you is a sign of disrespect. 

• Demands your attention 

She doesn’t care what you are doing or if it is more important than her petty problems. Of course, your partner should be a priority, but only if the respect is mutual. If she continues to act as if she owns you and you’re obligated to spend all your time with her, then it’s blatant disrespect.  

Hard Truths by Nim Notty

If you have good reasons for staying with someone who goes out of their way to disrespect you then that is an issue in itself. A disrespectful woman isn’t someone you want to be around for a long period of time, because she knows what she’s doing. You need to practice self-love and self-respect more than anything else.

 

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