Let’s keep it casual
Friends with benefits (aka FWB) is a casual sexual relationship arrangement where two people mostly friends agree to have physical intimacy without having to commit the time or emotional investment which comes with a full blown relationship.
However, in order for a friends with benefits (FWB) relationship to blossom relationship experts reckon that there needs to be a strict set of rules otherwise the whole thing would come crashing down faster than you can say Timbuktu.
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Here are 9 rules you need to follow to the letter if you are thinking of having a friends with benefits to avoid confusion, awkwardness, and disappointments.
#9. Be Emotionally Ready
Unlike what most people think Friends with Benefits is not a walk in the park and requires a certain degree of maturity to pull off the whole thing. Some people can be able to different sex and emotions while for some its a tall order and can’t help but start developing feeling when they start sleeping with someone so know what you are getting yourself into first before you start a friends with benefits relationship
#8. Don’t be clingy
This is a friendship, not a relationship so don’t get it confused! In a friends with benefit arrangement there is no marking your territory so avoid leaving your personal items behind at their place from clothes to toothbrush
#7. Keep it open and moving
Never get too comfortable that you start thinking that your arrangement revolves around you. Remember that nothing stops your partner from seeing other people on the side and even ending the whole thing the minute they meet someone they want to have a full pledged relationship.
Just like any other relationship, friends with benefits requires open communication to thrive. Communicate your expectations about the relationship, communicate about your boundaries, communicate about your sexual health and above all communicate when you meet someone and you want to be serious with them and therefore wish to end the friends with benefits arrangement.
There is no harm in doing sleepovers but doing so is inviting confusion into the whole thing. After having sex, LEAVE! Cuddles and spooning fall squarely into activities for couples and should be avoided if you want your FWB relationship to work.
#4.Don’t be lovey dovey
No holding hands, no smooching in public, no going on dates basically no PDA, save that shit for your boyfriend and girlfriend. This might be the golden rule of successful FWB relationships so don’t be all lovey dovey.
#3. Put Friendship first
You guys started out as friends before deciding to add sex into the mix so your friendship should not be sacrificed at the alter of sex. Nurture and grow your friendship as much as you guys are shagging and neither should be sidelined because now you are more than just friends.
#2.Don’t become FWB with someone you already have feelings for
This is a recipe for disaster and sleeping with someone with the hopes that they will fall for you is a sure fire way to break your own heart. Instead of going for someone that you are romantically interested in, choose someone that you know less well so that things can indeed be casual.
#1. Keep it safe
At the end of the day when all is said and done your health comes first so always wear a rubber. More so keeping in mind that you are not the only person they are sleeping with so always wear a condom to avoid nasty surprises of STDs and HIV. Have a fun friends with benefits!737