The ABC of BDSM

Call it the devil’s sex, freaky sex, kinky sex, whips and chains sex whatever really you want to christine it but one thing remains the same. If you have the heart and balls to try BDSM you may never go back.

Across the world, there’s a thriving community of BDSM fans and fanatic alike who can’t imagine having sex any other way.

What the fuck is BDSM?

BDSM can be broken into three subcategories: Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, and Sadism/Masochism.

Under these three subcategories, there exists a rich and extensive list of characters who fulfill different roles. On top of that BDSM boosts a rich vocabulary and terminologies which can be intimidating for newcomers.

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Erotic Africa went on a fishing expedition to dig up all the erotic vocabularies used in this side of the word. Here are just a few basics to get you started.

A is for Aftercare

Aftercare is the practice of checking in with one another after a play season to make sure all parties are alright and any bruise is tended. There’s often cuddling and always a conversation about what just went down. 

B is for Bondage

Bondage is the act of tying your partner using ropes, handcuffs, Velcro, specialty hooks, clasps, or simply a belt if you’re on a budget.

C is for Cuckold

Traditionally, a cuck is a man who enjoys, often for submissive and erotic humiliation reasons, watching another man have sex with his wife. In a cuckolding scene, the other man invited to have sex with the wife is a “bull.” While people of all genders can be cucks females are referred to as “cuck queens,” 

D is for Domination/Submission

While kinky people can be on a spectrum, typically you’re either dominant or submissive.  The dominant partner in D/S relationship is the one who wields the erotic power while the submissive partner is the one on the receiving end. 

A dominatrix is a woman who takes the dominant role in BDSM activities.

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E is for Edgeplay

This is the end of the spectrum of BDSM activities. Edgeplay refers to the risky shit and while everyone’s definition of edgeplay is a little different, all always involves blood or knife coming into play. If there’s actually a chance of real physical harm, it’s likely edgeplay. 

F is for foot fetish

Foot fetishists enjoy worshiping a foot, kissing it, smelling it, massaging it, getting a footjob, licking it, sucking on toes, or even getting stepped on.

Golden Showers

A golden shower is when you lovingly shower your partner with your piss. 

H is for Hard Limits

Hard limits are sexual acts that are off-limits. It’s paramount to discuss these boundaries with your partner before any BDSM play. 

I is for Impact Play

Any impact on the body, such as spanking, caning, flogging, slapping, etc. is known as impact.

J is for Japanese Bondage

The most popular type of Japanese bondage is Shibari, in which one partner ties up the other in beautiful and intricate patterns using rope. While it’s a method of restraint, it can also be an art form.

L is for Leather

Yes, you guessed it right, leather is the official uniform of the BDSM community. Leather shorts, leather paddles, and leather corsets are a popular choice of clothes worn by kinksters during season plays.

M is for Masochist

A masochist is someone who gets off on receiving sexual pain.

O is for Orgasm Denial

Standing on the edge can be frickin sexy AF.  A throbbing clit or a boner so hard it hurts is the joy of orgasm denial. The dominant partner will typically bring the submissive close or to the brink of orgasm, then stop.

P is for Painslut

A painslut is a dope-ass submissive partner who’s a sucker for pain. They get off from bittersweet pleasure including getting slapped, name-calling, spanked and even spit at in the face. It’s imperative to note though that before any BDSM season starts they get to set their boundaries, and everything is pre-negotiated and the dominant then executes her wishes.

Q is for Queening

Queening is just a glam name for face-sitting. It is when a woman, a.k.a. the queen you must worship sits on your face.

R is for RACK

RACK stands for Risk Aware Consensual Kink, which are the BDSM community guidelines on how to make sure everyone is aware of the dangers they consent to. Another set of guidelines are the “SSC,” which stresses keeping activities “safe, sane, and consensual.” 

S is for Switch

A switch is someone who enjoys both the dominant and submissive role. 

V is for Voyeurism

A voyeur is someone who enjoys watching others have sex. 

Y is for Yes!

BDSM and consent go hand in hand. The dominant partner checks with his submissive partner before they fulfill their respective desires.

Z is for Zentai

Zentai is a skintight Japanese bodysuit typically made of spandex and nylon. It can cover the entire body, including the face. Some people get off on the sensation of having their entire body bound in tight fabric, and wear it for kinky reasons.