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Jiggle jiggle big star…

Call her fat, thick, curvy, plus size or more precisely Big Beautiful Women (BBWs) one thing remains a fact they don’t need your validation to feel beautiful and sexy.

Thanks, however, to green with envy western media campaigns that for decades have portrayed curvy women as not sexy enough young girls have grown up feeling inadequate and society has taken a cue.

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As such in a fake conditioned world where everything has to be tucked in nicely, there are still  people out there who feel entitled to comment on a woman’s size, especially if she’s on the curvier side and horribly go wrong about it. First of all a woman’s body size is her business and her business alone so fuck off or shut up.

Here are 10 things you should never say to a curvy woman. Most women are just sick of hearing them.

“You are pretty for a big girl”

Saying this will land you in her bad books faster than you can say Timbuktu. Just like their slender counterpart’s curvy girls are beautiful because they are fucking beautiful period, not because their body size or shape has anything to do with it. In fact you will meet dozens of curvy girls who are way more beautiful than slim chicks.

“You’d be dateable if you lose weight.”

Have I told you I have a shortage of men? Some curvy women like one Nzilani actually can’t keep up with all the men drooling over her body. Everyday it’s raining men and her body is apparently ‘breaking necks’.

Let me not even start with Senator Millicent Omanga who literally grabs national headlines every time she steps out because of her curvy figure and thunder thighs to tempt the pope that have elevated her to larger than life status.

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Not every man is crazy over a size 0 chick just like not every man wants to date a curvy chick but yes there are men out there who wake up and sleep dreaming of  big asses, big boobs and thunder thighs so sit down and take a chill pill. 

“Are you pregnant?”

Ooops I don’t know how you can recover from this because asking a woman if she is pregnant and she’s not will only leave you with an egg on your face. The best thing is let them be the one to let you know about their status. Bodies are deceiving and going about trying to judge if someone is pregnant or nor based on their bodies is fucking lame.

“You should wear more black. It’s very slimming”

I don’t know who made you a stylist but curvy women don’t appreciate being told what to wear, how and where to wear it….like fuck you who are you again? Gone are the days when curvy and plus size women would dread wearing certain colours from stripes/polka dots to floral prints because of all the pressure from society and what people would say.

Today curvy are stepping out in all their glory and flaunting their curves without a care. Have you seen Gabriella Lascano, Tess Holliday, Ashley Graham, Fluvia Lacerda, Gabourey Sidibe, Eudoxie Yao, Grace Msalame, Vera Sidika, Neomi Ng’ang’a, Rita Mutheu and Talia Stacey on a Friday night?

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“If you ate less, you’d probably lose weight.”

Can you imagine the audacity of that like damn who told you everything about weight boils down to food. There’s a tone of things from genes to lifestyle which play a factor in determining one’s weight. 

Secondly, who told you that all curvy women want to lose weight? Naaah some of us are big and proud, we wouldn’t change our big fat, curvy and sexy bodies for the world and yes we have enough admirers so get over it.

“My friend lost so much weight on this great diet.”

Again another big no. people are different and what works for your friend may not work for me and unless i came to you on all four crying and begging for a quick solution to lose weight just keep your opinion and diet recommendations to yourself.

“You have such a pretty face.”

Mmmh and i have an ugly fat body right? Look you cannot love a part of someone and hate the rest of their bodies naaah they are one and the same. Curvy women have beautiful bodies that happen to be filled with amazing curves and if you don’t see that then that’s your problem.

“You think you’re healthy, but you really need to take care of yourself.”

 Remind me again how that’s any of your business?

“You’re big-boned, that’s all.”

 Nope! She’s curvy and fabulous and she knows it. Can we move on now?

“What happened?”

This ends up sounding like i did something bad while in reality i just got curvy and fabulous and i love the new me, simple.

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