Reading Time: 3 minutesBefore dating apps, one-nightstands were a bit troublesome. You had to show up to a bar looking drop-dead gorgeous in the hope that someone brave enough would take you home after having a drink or a five-minute conversation with you. The world of online dating has switched things up. One-night stands are now more accessible than before.
There’s still work to put into it since you have to look charming enough, write a “swipe-rightable” kind of profile and jot a few sentences together in chat. We may not always know that we are headed for a one-night stand before it happens, but it’s important to be upfront from the get-go. If you are just looking for a casual relationship you should let the other partner know that. There are a few unspoken rules any decent human being should abide by:
Carry Protection
Don’t expect that your hookup will come carrying protection, always carry your own. You don’t want to be caught in the heat of the moment and be forced to stop because none of you carried protection with you. Pop a few contraceptive sponges, condoms or dental dams before you meet your hookup. If you happen to forget you can pass by your local store and purchase supplies.
Be Honest With Your Hookup
Not all men are looking for sex. Some genuinely want sex and a relationship. So it’s not right to assume that just because you meet your hookup at 1:00 am in a nightclub, they only want a one-nightstand. If you know that you are not going to exchange contacts the next day after sexual encounters, let them know that beforehand. Otherwise, you will need to explain to them the next morning with a hangover.
Carry Your Money
Don’t be caught without enough money to take you home after all the fun is done as you could find yourself on the other side of town. You need to ensure you have a cab or bus fare to go back home. Budget it into your expenses so that you won’t be stuck and forced to text or call your friends to come pick you up.
It’s not a good idea to feel trapped or reliant on your date to get you home. It’s important to practice premeditated independence and to ensure you are financially prepared to make your way home.
Ghost or Not To Ghost
If you had a good time after a nightstand but don’t want to see them again, it’s good to send them a message the next day and let them know that you don’t want to see them again. Write a message like this one, “It was nice meeting you yesterday. I had a great time and loved learning more about you. That being said, I do want to leave this on a first date and wish you nothing but the best! Good luck with [add personal details about the goal they were working on]. Take care!” In most cases, the whole idea of a one-night stand is that the both of you don’t see each other again. It’s still a good thing to send them a follow-up text the following morning and thank them for spending time with you.
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