How To Get Over Someone: Surefire Tips To Get Over a Breakup

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We have been at this point in our lives following the end of a relationship when all you want to do is tuck in your sheets and sob. Breakups suck regardless of who decides to end the relationship.

Adult psychiatrist at Kaiser Permanente, California explains, “Breakups are so challenging. They can signify a change in roles and routine, and even cause one to question their values or who they are. Acknowledging your feelings and normalizing the variety of emotions experienced in this process is key in allowing yourself to heal.”

If you resort to drowning your sorrows with alcohol or you can’t stop blaming yourself for what went wrong in the relationship, you could be wondering if there’s a different way to get through your heartache. To help you leave the past behind and move on we have a list of things that will help you get through your heartache:

Let Yourself Feel All The Emotions

Don’t bottle your feelings up. You need to acknowledge what you are feeling and know that as time goes by, it will pass.

Dr. Sanam Hafeez, neuropsychologist and Director of Comprehend the Mind explains, “Being upset after a breakup is natural, allow yourself time to feel these emotions and express them in a healthy way, such as talking to a friend or writing in a journal.”

Let off steam in workout classes, go on nature walks or binge-watch your favourite movies. It’s all part of the healing process.

Spend Time With Family and Friends

After breaking up it’s important to be around your personal fan club. Your close friends and family love and support you and will be there to support you and to watch movies with you or grab lunch with you as you both talk through your feelings and cry with you.

You will find that it’s easier to smile and process your emotions with your bestfriends by your side. Spending time with the people that you love will make you feel less lonely and remind you that there are still important people in life who care about you.

Prioritize Self-Care

When a breakup is fresh it’s advisable to prioritize yourself so that you can heal. Remember that self-worth isn’t tied up in whether someone wants to be in a relationship with you or not. It’s a good time to focus on self-care.

You can schedule a day in the spa, read your favourite books or hang out with your favourite company. Also, try to get plenty of sleep and get fresh air if you can. Dr. Torress Mackie advises, “Engage in healthy, distracting activities that feel good for your mind, body, and soul,”

Be Patient With Yourself

As terrible as the feelings may feel, avoid rushing the process. It may take days, weeks or even several months before you feel completely yourself once more and that’s totally normal.

Dr. Torres-Mackie advises “After a breakup, try to avoid self-judgment about how long you are still in your feelings about it. Healing is an individual process. It takes as long as it takes, and that’s ok.”

Write Your ex a Letter

Writing all your feelings down helps you to process your emotions. Since your thoughts may feel overwhelming therefore it’s advisable to put them down on paper to help you work through unresolved issues from the relationship.

The intention of writing the letter isn’t to send it but to let it all out. If you can give it some time you may feel a strong need to share your letter, instead ask your ex to meet you and have a conversation with them to address any lingering concerns.

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