Don’t Be Unfair to Your Spouse: It’s Time to Rethink How You Treat the One Who Loves You Most

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Don’t Be Unfair to Your Spouse: It’s Time to Rethink How You Treat the One Who Loves You Most

In the rush of life, it’s easy to show the world your best — while giving your spouse what’s left. But when you step back and reflect, some patterns are hard to ignore.

Let’s talk about the quiet unfairness that creeps into marriages:

1. When a client calls, you call back immediately. But your spouse? You let their call slide.
   Why does urgency only apply to business and not to love?
2. You go out of your way to impress a new boss — even buy a gift. But when was the last time you went out of your way to impress your spouse?
3. You proudly post selfies with celebrities or influencers. But somehow, your spouse doesn’t make the cut for your timeline.
   Is shame or neglect disguising itself as privacy?
4. You cheer for other people’s children on TV. Yet your own child barely hears a word of encouragement from you.
5. You win an award and celebrate it publicly. But when your spouse compliments you, you brush it off like it’s nothing.
   Why does praise only count when it comes from strangers?
6. You smile and soften your tone when speaking to your pastor. But your spouse gets your harshest moods and coldest stares.
7. You compliment strangers for how they dress. But your spouse, even after dressing up for you, gets no attention — not even a glance.
8. You take clients out to luxury restaurants. But date nights with your spouse? Rare, or nonexistent.
9. You speak with passion about celebrities who don’t know you exist. Yet you can’t seem to find kind words for the one who’s walked with you through life’s trenches.
10. When a VIP asks to meet, you drop everything and show up on time. But when your spouse asks for your time, they’re met with delay or indifference.
11. You share opinions confidently at work. But your spouse asks for your input and you shut down, leaving them to figure things out alone.
12. You give generously to friends, buy drinks, contribute publicly. But when your spouse or children ask for something, you’re quick to say “no” or demand justification.
13. You’re a team player at the office. But in your marriage? You act solo, forgetting love also needs collaboration.
14. You write polished, respectful emails to colleagues. But your tone with your spouse is dry, cold, sometimes demeaning.

Ask yourself: Why?

Why does your spouse — the one who knows you best, sacrifices for you, and loves you unconditionally — get the least of you?

Why do you wear your best manners for the outside world but offer your worst at home?

It’s time to course-correct.

Your marriage is not just another part of life — it’s the foundation of everything. How you treat your spouse says more about your character than any professional accomplishment ever will.

So, treat them as special. Speak with warmth. Show gratitude. Invest time.
Because love, when nurtured, grows. But when neglected, even the strongest bond can break.

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